Updated: Jun 14, 2020
Life is hard and there is nothing new about it. We all know it, we have dealt with it and will continue to. But what’s new is, we witnessed the shocking incident where amazingly talented Indian actor Sushant Singh Rajput committed suicide at his house in Bandra , Mumbai.
We urge you to watch this advertisement which Sushant Singh Rajpur did before we talk any further:
We all agree Sushant Singh Rajput was a gifted actor & loved his movies like PK, Chhichhore, MS Dhoni and many others but we are not here to fret about what could be done or went wrong because that will only make all of us gloomy, there are many others who must be inspired to reach out, to fight it out, to prove themselves. We won't talk about super humans who have defied any vulnerabilities but normal people like all of us written off by most but bounced their way back.
We all love Sanjay Dutt for making us laugh while we also had tears in our eyes in Munnabhai MBBS but have you ever thought how tough it would have been for him to come back and give performances like he did having fought his drug addiction. It would have been pretty easy for our beloved Sanju Baba to give up but he did not. Later he was allegedly involved in some terror related activities but he managed to bounce back yet again. Do you know why was he able to come right back because he had an unconditional support of his father late Sunil Dutt.
Do you remember this scene from Munnai bhai MBBS? This is what we are talking about, maybe if Sushant had brought someone from his family ..maybe things would have different.
Second person whom we would like to mention is Ravindra Jadeja. His competence was questioned time & again, he was written off by many for not being gifted like Sachin Tendulkar or have a great googly up his armor like Anil Kumble. I felt him, I felt the rage that we bear, the turmoil which we undergo to make through this mortal coil. Given the authority, I would entitle him as “Master of self-belief”, for he has inspired many by proving how wonders take place when one choose to listen to self over denunciation or failure induced pessimism.
He meticulously proved his worth in Indian Cricket team and swiped out the “verbal diarrhea” with his cricket skills. He taught us the only way to win is by winning yourself. Isn't it simple and easy to adhere? I guess not, had it been the case, the figures of students, adults and anybody human, choosing death over life struggles would be meager.
Yeah, now you got it, I am here to talk about increasing, rather accelerating epidemic of suicides in our country. Its extremely disturbing to read about it every other day, like what are we moving forward to? We live in a society where we are always being scrutinized under the spectrum of stress and pressure and moreover, we are not doing anything about it, we are not talking about it, rather we are advancing it oncoming generations, similar to what our fathers and forefathers did.
We are under pressure of scoring high,to get a job and then there is this endless list, who knows might be you are on earth because of the pressure your grandparents inflicted on your parents to have you ……( just like Ambani's dude).
What's worse is - that nothing will change until accountability is reinstated, like who is the generator and cultivator of such an environment?. The answer is opaque yet very obvious- “WE”. The accountability falls equally on the shoulders of the victim's friends, spouse, parents or teachers because little do we think about how we make people feel about themselves while we interact with them, we need to be sensitive and sensible with our verbal and nonverbal communication.
Especially when it comes to parents and teachers.Being elder or being in a noble profession doesn't make you God, you are still human and you can be wrong. I understand that your actions are for their betterment, however, it is futile if it makes the child/student depressed.
Lose the amount of control you possess over their lives, embrace them with their flaws and failures. Let them pave their own paths of happiness and content by failing rather than tracing your burdensome footsteps.
Moving on, we often find ourselves under the circumstances when self doubt afloat while the will to make through sinks, as we become blind to the light that guides. There are times when there is nobody who believes in you, even the dearest turns their back and self-love wanes. There can be several odds and you still can’t justify giving up on yourself. Quoting Shakespeare,
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune,
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles
And by opposing end them. - ( Hamlet’s Soliloquy)
You have to fight for yourself to be happy, to live peacefully, dream but don't make dreams your master, hustle hard but don't let them eat you. Just wait and don't be tired of waiting, you never know what future beholds, Ernest Becker( famous psychologist & anthropologist) struggled his whole life to excel, however, his book “ Denial of Death” became successful while he was on his deathbed, his claims are influential even today.
Love yourself every day as you love your friends.
“Ankit, Rajjo, IT me kaam karte karte apni life matt bhuljana. Live a little every day. Ek hi Zindagi mili hain” - Reads the suicide note of Mark Andrew (IIT Hyderabad).
If this isn't enough for motivation, I would like you to read /( listen) to this poem which will alter your thoughts.
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